Today, we get personal: A call for advice

My role among my friends usually is that of "Dear Adams." I'm a sounding board for emotional, relationship, career, and life problems. In some people's cases, all four (what up, Dounia?).
But now I find myself in a situation where the roles have been reversed, and I am the one seeking input. I think I've built up enough credit helping others that I'm due some sage words of advice from my friends.

Now before I continue with my melodrama, let me say that I have NEVER asked for advice when it comes to relationships or dealing with the aftermath. Not when I got a "Dear Jake" letter while overseas, not when I tried dating a woman 13 years my senior, and not when the woman I intended to marry started screwing her co-worker after we lost our baby.

Anyways, my problem can basically be summed up like this: "The heart makes choices the head knows not why."
Most of you may, or may not, know that I broke up with my girlfriend of nine months about four weeks ago. Was it a serious relationship? Not really. Not in the sense that we were going to get married, or anything. But we spent nearly every day together during that time.
Now, the reason I broke up with her, is she treated me with a sort of casual indifference in public - like I was the only option available to her - despite the fact she did have feelings for me. I hate to throw around cliches like "emotionally unavailable," but ... that pretty much describes her.

Now, having made the "smart" decision of parting ways with her, I find myself thinking of her all the time. And I mean ALL the time. It's quite frustrating, actually, knowing that I made the right decision, but being tortured by it.
I thought the key would be to jump back on the wagon, and get back in the dating game, but I forgot just how vapid and shallow the majority of women in this town are. And besides, I don't feel the desire. If I go clubbing these days, it's just to hang with my friends - not for the post-bar gymnastics.

So... any suggestions? Email me with your thoughts, opinions, or whipped jokes. I'll read em all ...